Relationships and Requirements

I pray to God that I gain wisdom each and every day and able to discern when things are not according to His will.

I like to send daily inspirational messages to my friends via text messages, but figure this maybe a better avenue. I was encouraged by one of my best friends "Queshia" to begin writing. I was encouraged without her even knowing. Funny how that is huh.

In any event, some people have had the opportunity to "know" me and others the opportunity to "know about" me. I find myself at a point where I am 25 embarking on a new journey of understanding and enlightenment. I am growing in my relationship with Christ. And learning what it means to be a Christian. Not just in word or in title but in action. Knowing what it means to be held accountable.

Recently, I have come full circle on what it means to forgive. Forgiveness is not for the other person but for you whom felt hurt, betrayed or whatever. I have forgive and sought forgiveness in my heart and spirit and found that it is so relieving to let go and let God. For vengeance is the Lord's.

Onto the subject matter of my blog:
Relationships and Requirements....
Everyone always says Celeste do not put your views and expectations on others because you will be the only one whom is disappointed. I pondered that for a moment. Then of course, I rejected that notion. The people whom I love, respect, admire, and care for all know that I have a set of standards for lack of a better word, in which I live by. So to me, its not me that is disappointed when things do not go accordingly, but instead it is them. Because I will not lower my standards to accommodate someones lack of.

Case in point- please do not take it personal, but I do not like nor appreciate people calling me a pruned because I have not had "relations". I mean give a sister a break. Based on life experiences and witnessing how emotional and damaged one can become after participating in such action, I have chosen to refrain. Plus, how does it go, "once you know better you must do better", well I know better.

Next, everyone cannot take my personality. And I respect them for it. Its not easy dealing with a Williams woman. LOL. But seriously, that comes with understanding what kind of relationship you are seeking to have with me. My true friends love me to death, why because they accept me for who I am. They know that I am not putting on eras to be their friend. I state on the side of right. And if I believe in my heart with supported facts that I am right, then I will not change my view. Now a sister can admit, I have been wrong in holding onto my right. And in those cases I can go back an apologize. Its all about growth and development.

Furthermore, I have come to accept who I am for what I am. The changes that I go through are strictly for the betterment of who I desire to be in Christ. Because when I am done with my task on earth. I want God to say, well done my good and faithful servant.

So while I may not know all and I may not get everything right. One thing I do know is that in all relationships there needs to be some requirements. Its about establishing a foundation. Do not allow yourself to loose yourself trying to fulfill someone elses desires as to who you are to be. But know that when you enter into any relationship guidelines and boundaries need to be set.

Be blessed, Celeste

P.S.

God determines who walks into your life....it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.' Father, God, bless all my friends in whatever it is that you know they may need this day! And may their lives be full of your peace, prosperity and power as they seek to have a closer relationship with you.
Amen. Make it a wonderful day!!!